Dating for people with illness
They claimed I had an emotional spring-cleaning of sorts, every few months.
I laughed and scoffed saying it wasn’t true and they were just teasing me.
I decided to be someone they remember fondly, though it “just didn’t work out”, then have them choose not to be with me because I am sick.
We would both be forced to blame the situation, and not my illness.
Another way of accomplishing the same goal is by getting myself into impossible or hopeless situations from the beginning, that way the relationship had no way of working.
I would rather be remembered with the romantic notion of “the one who got away”, than as that sick girl they once dated.
My mother even joined in the fun and told me not to bring someone home, unless I was “serious”, because I sure had a lot of people who were “friends”.
I always have a lot to juggle with family, friends, work and now an illness.
If the person I meet is just as busy, the hope is he won’t notice when I am tired or not giving him the attention he and the relationship deserves. Okay, so I know this might be shocking for those of you reading this who know me as I am now very happily married with a child.
It bothered me and I tried to think back to every man that I ever dated or even spent time with, and I didn’t want to continue this apparent pattern.
I finally figured it out, and lovingly, or jokingly (depending on who I am talking to) refer to it as “The Lupus Dating Game”.